We hit the next block at Chet Atkins Pl. and, through my wheezing, Hilary said, “Just imagine, one day our bodies won’t be able to do that. We must be grateful for that.” She’s so right. Before my grandfather died, he was on oxygen all the time. He had to carry around a tank to help him breathe because his lungs couldn’t get enough air in them to fuel his body. Can you imagine what he would have done to be able to do a sprint and have his lungs be filled with fresh autumn air? Can you imagine what he would have done to be able to just walk up the stairs at his home to get to his library. Hilary said, “You sound like a little steam engine” because I find this pattern in my breathing: inhale for two steps, exhale for two steps. And when I’m really going, that little steam engine gets pretty loud and just rolls. It’s invigorating to think about the amount of air that goes in and out of our lungs and our bodies - the way our heart has to pump to make that happen. The way our muscles are firing. The way things are moving inside our bodies. Everything that happens after we move like that, as our body settles. That rush of adrenaline that happens.
As you know, I have been in Tanzania for the past two weeks. I chronicled my trip with my family via email and am excited to share those. It was challenging often and I wouldn’t trade any of those challenging moments for any non-challenging moments ever. And, I really wanted to take the time on this trip to disconnect from social media and really connect with my surroundings. There was also so much during this trip that I felt I needed space to process and I felt that I couldn’t take that space if I was connecting via social media. Thank you for understanding why getFIT615 and I have been offline for a few weeks.
Boundaries are hugely important in running your own business (and your own life) - and learning how to set them kindly is something that I do all day every day. When I first opened my business, I was a “yes” person. I wanted to be involved in every single thing all the time. And then I learned that, in the words of Mark Manson, “if it’s not a “fuck yes, it’s a no.” And that’s when it really clicked for me: In order for me to continue being authentic, I was going to have to learn how to say no. It’s important to note that I’m still a yes person! I’m just saying yes to things that are authentic to me and to my business. By saying no when I need to, I am creating the space to say yes to the things that really matter.
We say, "Shine! Who are you not to?!" all the time because this is not only a wonderful and light way of thinking about life, but it's also grounded and so real. Who are you not to? Who are you not to do stuff that lights your soul on fire? Who are you not to do stuff that scares you? Who are you not to be real in this life? Who are you not to stand up for someone else? Who are you not to stand up for yourself and ask for what you need and set boundaries?! Who are you to spend so much time watching dog videos on the internet that you don't have time to be big?
Take a step back… you are the underlying theme in all of your relationships. So, if you’re having the same problem in a bunch of your relationships, it’s you. We can sugar coat this all we want… but the truth is, the issue is you. You can want for this other person to change with all your heart, you can ask them to, you can tell them you’re going to leave them if they don’t, you can threaten your heart out… but they probably won’t. And even if they do, it probably won’t fix it. So how about you change. You can tell someone all day long, "look what you made me do!" But you did that... they didn't make you do that. You did that.
I told the team my story. My story with food, and my body, and opening the gym, and not being enough, and not knowing who I am or what I wanted. My story of taking a leap of faith just because Lauren Farina and Kelly Carter told me that they kind of just thought I could. Joe Powers told me that, “you have the spirit for this, you’ll just have to do a lot of learning.” And I trusted them. I told the team that basically, I created getFIT615 in the most selfish way possible - I created a space that I desperately needed. I turned it into my home and I waited for people to show up and need it too. And they eventually did start showing up - and then they stayed too. When we were talking about our core desired feelings in regards to the gym, a word that came up for all of us was “home.” In a home you feel like you belong and that you can get comfortable there, and you can stay for as long as you want, for as long as that space serves you. You can go as far away from it as you can possibly travel, for as long as you can stand to stay away too, but you can always turn around and come home. A home is so full of love.
Bloom where you are planted means bloom as a daisy in a field of poppies. They both need full sun right? Bloom where you are planted is knowing that just because you’re a poppy in a field of other poppies, it’s still important for you to bloom! Because you’re the only damn poppy who is you! Are you following me here?!
Does it feel authentic to who I am and what I do to lead a retreat where we make sure that we workout and sweat every day? Absolutely it does. I know for certain that getting grounded in your body with a beautiful view, fresh food, excellent company, downtime, sunlight, daily meditations, rest, conversation, horses, paddle boarding and water is one of the best ways to come to life feeling rejuvenated, full, nourished and well-rested. And that feels 100% authentic to me.