Every time my heart has broken in some way or another, I've learned the most. I've grown the most. My world view has expanded the most. That heart ache is not easy - but each time it feels like some sort of mask has been lifted and I can see myself and everyone around me a little more clearly - or even at all. So that's some serious shit that I'm grateful for... maybe not always in the moment... and still some stuff not even "yet." But maybe eventually I'll see it.
I want to share this with the fitness community because I love the fitness community - so much. I also love myself as a woman and this is important work for me to do as an individual. Every time I make a stand for woman, I'm making a stand for myself. Because if I don't stand up for myself, nobody will. And if I'm able to stand up for myself, then I'm certainly able and privileged enough to stand up for others.
On Friday morning, my friend got raped.
She had let a guy come into her house who she knew - they had had a fling a few years ago. He’s engaged now and she had explicitly told him multiple times, 4 times to be exact, that he couldn’t touch her, and that she was not interested in messing around with him now that he’s engaged. She got into her own bed, fully clothed, rolled over, and went to sleep.
When she woke up, he was behind her, having anal intercourse with her.
Foods are unable to act, therefore unable to do good or bad things. When we refer to foods as good or bad, we inevitably refer to ourselves as good for eating good foods and bad for eating bad foods. There's a problem with this. Eating food is the way we nourish our bodies, no matter if it's healthy or unhealthy, so you can't be bad for eating food. It's a necessity. Yes, some foods are better for your health & some foods can be harmful, but you will never be able to sustain a healthy lifestyle if your motivation is to be good & not be bad. When you are good, it's easy to fall into reward mode
Here’s how you can help:
Purchase something off of each one of these Wish Lists. Purchase an entire Wish List. Purchase one item each month. If you have left over stuff at your house that your kids have grown out of that you think could be recycled and used in our local schools, please drop them off at getFIT615 and we’ll distribute them to some of these local teachers that reached out, or we’ll donate them to RISE, Inc. where they’ll be used in our local tutoring program or taken with us to Tanzania when we go in August.
“I’m not enough” and “I am unworthy of being loved” were the feelings that came along with “I am fat and fat is the worst thing you can possibly be.” And since that day, the day that someone shared their own story with me and I was able to realize my own story, I’ve been able to not choose that story anymore. I can’t change that I chose that story for so long, but what I can do is tell that story, and make the choice, every single day, to not choose that story. It’s an old way of thinking, and I don’t have to think that anymore.
First of all, before I really get going, I want to tell you something - when I first opened up getFIT615, I had no clue what I was doing. But what I did know, is that I was tired of hating my body and I was tired of seeing trainers and thinking that I had to live up to some unrealistic expectations. I was also tired of not knowing who I was or what I wanted. So I committed to something major: authenticity. I am committed to being a real example of what it looks like to take care of my body, my heart, my mind and my connection. That’s why I share stuff. That’s why I workout without a shirt on. That’s why I do what I do - to show anyone who pays any attention, in full transparency, what real life looks like for me and that I’m cool with whatever real life looks like for you. Struggles, joys, pain, laughter, choice, love, anger, fear, shame… all of it. I want to be somebody that 10 year old me needed, that 16 year old me needed, that 22 year old me needed.