You might be asking yourself, “what does unlearning mean?” Unlearning has many ways of being interpreted and applied to our lives but I like to think of it as actively and intentionally removing a concept, thought or belief from our awareness AND (this is really important) unawareness.
Resilience is an innate tool in each and every one of us. We are all resilient every day. You were tired, so you drank some coffee and then went on with your day. You fell on a box jump, but you tried it again a week later. You had your heart broken, but after some time, you set up a Bumble dating profile.
This month’s theme is SELF CARE. Not the kind that’s expensive and pampering. The real kind. The kind that helps you see the world. The kind that helps you feel at ease and grounded. Take care of yourself so you can take care of each other. Put your mask on.
Forgive yourself for not knowing everything or being everything that you always thought you'd be or living the life you always imagined you would… You’re human, and you’re doing your best… just like the rest of us.
So with courage, with gratitude, with the understanding of many types of privilege you have in your life, with compassion, reach out to someone with whom you’d like to connect and talk. Get coffee, go for a walk, invite them over for dinner… and then talk about real stuff.
Every time my heart has broken in some way or another, I've learned the most. I've grown the most. My world view has expanded the most. That heart ache is not easy - but each time it feels like some sort of mask has been lifted and I can see myself and everyone around me a little more clearly - or even at all. So that's some serious shit that I'm grateful for... maybe not always in the moment... and still some stuff not even "yet." But maybe eventually I'll see it.
“Where empathy meets the willingness to relieve someone else’s suffering.”
Those are my updates of the evening. I love you all and I appreciate the way you support me in this wild and driven life I seem to lead.
I want to share this with the fitness community because I love the fitness community - so much. I also love myself as a woman and this is important work for me to do as an individual. Every time I make a stand for woman, I'm making a stand for myself. Because if I don't stand up for myself, nobody will. And if I'm able to stand up for myself, then I'm certainly able and privileged enough to stand up for others.
On Friday morning, my friend got raped.
She had let a guy come into her house who she knew - they had had a fling a few years ago. He’s engaged now and she had explicitly told him multiple times, 4 times to be exact, that he couldn’t touch her, and that she was not interested in messing around with him now that he’s engaged. She got into her own bed, fully clothed, rolled over, and went to sleep.
When she woke up, he was behind her, having anal intercourse with her.