We say, "Shine! Who are you not to?!" all the time because this is not only a wonderful and light way of thinking about life, but it's also grounded and so real. Who are you not to? Who are you not to do stuff that lights your soul on fire? Who are you not to do stuff that scares you? Who are you not to be real in this life? Who are you not to stand up for someone else? Who are you not to stand up for yourself and ask for what you need and set boundaries?! Who are you to spend so much time watching dog videos on the internet that you don't have time to be big?
Take a step back… you are the underlying theme in all of your relationships. So, if you’re having the same problem in a bunch of your relationships, it’s you. We can sugar coat this all we want… but the truth is, the issue is you. You can want for this other person to change with all your heart, you can ask them to, you can tell them you’re going to leave them if they don’t, you can threaten your heart out… but they probably won’t. And even if they do, it probably won’t fix it. So how about you change. You can tell someone all day long, "look what you made me do!" But you did that... they didn't make you do that. You did that.
Be courageous and learn to love a burpee, because if we can learn to hate, we can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.
So what I'm going to do instead, is share some of the relevant information from the article so that we can all learn a little bit more about what diastasis recti is and how to heal it. I am also going to is share with you what I wrote to NPR's Morning Edition team as well as the writer herself.
I told the team my story. My story with food, and my body, and opening the gym, and not being enough, and not knowing who I am or what I wanted. My story of taking a leap of faith just because Lauren Farina and Kelly Carter told me that they kind of just thought I could. Joe Powers told me that, “you have the spirit for this, you’ll just have to do a lot of learning.” And I trusted them. I told the team that basically, I created getFIT615 in the most selfish way possible - I created a space that I desperately needed. I turned it into my home and I waited for people to show up and need it too. And they eventually did start showing up - and then they stayed too. When we were talking about our core desired feelings in regards to the gym, a word that came up for all of us was “home.” In a home you feel like you belong and that you can get comfortable there, and you can stay for as long as you want, for as long as that space serves you. You can go as far away from it as you can possibly travel, for as long as you can stand to stay away too, but you can always turn around and come home. A home is so full of love.
Bloom where you are planted means bloom as a daisy in a field of poppies. They both need full sun right? Bloom where you are planted is knowing that just because you’re a poppy in a field of other poppies, it’s still important for you to bloom! Because you’re the only damn poppy who is you! Are you following me here?!
Does it feel authentic to who I am and what I do to lead a retreat where we make sure that we workout and sweat every day? Absolutely it does. I know for certain that getting grounded in your body with a beautiful view, fresh food, excellent company, downtime, sunlight, daily meditations, rest, conversation, horses, paddle boarding and water is one of the best ways to come to life feeling rejuvenated, full, nourished and well-rested. And that feels 100% authentic to me.
I Don't Fuck With You. You guys, this song is really speaking to me right now. Lemme tell you my favorite line: I've got a million trillion things that I'd rather fucking do than to be fucking with you (Got a million things on my mind... limited amount of time)
Imma tell you about my weekend. It was intentional and it was perfect. It was slow but full. And I put my phone down. I put my emails away. I got things done but I wasn’t ever running late to anything or busting ass to get somewhere. I didn’t rush through this weekend. I ate gelato.
I learned this weekend that expectations set us up for failure especially when they are not communicated. I learned that I have some goals that I'm not currently working towards so I'm going to have to make some changes. I'm learning to be kind to my grief and my sadness when it comes up. I'm learning that I crave partnership and connection in both business and personal. I value authentic connection and when that doesn't happen from both parties, I feel that, and it doesn't feel good for me so I need space. I love leading and I also love learning.