On Friday morning, my friend got raped.
She had let a guy come into her house who she knew - they had had a fling a few years ago. He’s engaged now and she had explicitly told him multiple times, 4 times to be exact, that he couldn’t touch her, and that she was not interested in messing around with him now that he’s engaged. She got into her own bed, fully clothed, rolled over, and went to sleep.
When she woke up, he was behind her, having anal intercourse with her.
Foods are unable to act, therefore unable to do good or bad things. When we refer to foods as good or bad, we inevitably refer to ourselves as good for eating good foods and bad for eating bad foods. There's a problem with this. Eating food is the way we nourish our bodies, no matter if it's healthy or unhealthy, so you can't be bad for eating food. It's a necessity. Yes, some foods are better for your health & some foods can be harmful, but you will never be able to sustain a healthy lifestyle if your motivation is to be good & not be bad. When you are good, it's easy to fall into reward mode
Here’s how you can help:
Purchase something off of each one of these Wish Lists. Purchase an entire Wish List. Purchase one item each month. If you have left over stuff at your house that your kids have grown out of that you think could be recycled and used in our local schools, please drop them off at getFIT615 and we’ll distribute them to some of these local teachers that reached out, or we’ll donate them to RISE, Inc. where they’ll be used in our local tutoring program or taken with us to Tanzania when we go in August.
You have the capacity to reach out a hand, to reach out both hands, and bring someone up with you, along side you, in front of you even. You have the voice to stand up for yourself and for anyone else. Lift with your legs - they have the most power.
“I’m not enough” and “I am unworthy of being loved” were the feelings that came along with “I am fat and fat is the worst thing you can possibly be.” And since that day, the day that someone shared their own story with me and I was able to realize my own story, I’ve been able to not choose that story anymore. I can’t change that I chose that story for so long, but what I can do is tell that story, and make the choice, every single day, to not choose that story. It’s an old way of thinking, and I don’t have to think that anymore.
First of all, before I really get going, I want to tell you something - when I first opened up getFIT615, I had no clue what I was doing. But what I did know, is that I was tired of hating my body and I was tired of seeing trainers and thinking that I had to live up to some unrealistic expectations. I was also tired of not knowing who I was or what I wanted. So I committed to something major: authenticity. I am committed to being a real example of what it looks like to take care of my body, my heart, my mind and my connection. That’s why I share stuff. That’s why I workout without a shirt on. That’s why I do what I do - to show anyone who pays any attention, in full transparency, what real life looks like for me and that I’m cool with whatever real life looks like for you. Struggles, joys, pain, laughter, choice, love, anger, fear, shame… all of it. I want to be somebody that 10 year old me needed, that 16 year old me needed, that 22 year old me needed.
Before I tell you the words I responded, let me tell you, I was shook. I was embarrassed. I was a little mad because I feel like maybe she had taken my words out of context! But then I had to check that and go, "Look Kate. This woman admires your work and appreciates what you do. She's not attacking you. She's standing up for what she believes in and knows that you guys are in the same boat. Soften. Listen. You would do the same thing."
I’m not trying to win any awards. I’m not trying to push myself through the pain. I’m not trying to grin and bear it. I’m not needing to find a new label in “competitive runner” or “athlete” or “fastest runner” or “distance runner.” I’m just trying something new to see how it goes and what I might learn. I’m getting curious. I’m listening. I’m doing my best. I’m being compassionate with myself. I’m being grateful. I’m being a yes - to running, to my body, to my growth, to where I am in all of this right now. I’m just running.
Spend your time and your money on things that are important to you please. Your time counts. Your money counts.
This year on my birthday, I enjoyed learning a lesson regarding asking for what I need.